Saturday, October 31, 2009

Let Me Tell You A Story...

So it's the time of the year when people - young and old - would enjoy scaring themselves and others silly simply because, hey, it's Halloween!

Seems like these days, everyone's got a ghost story or two to share - from the classic white lady sighted along college halls and corridors, to so-called "haunted" houses where suicides and untimely tragedies have occurred. Oh, and there are also the headless spirits, demonic possessions, and the more old-fashioned tales of aswangs and engkantos from far-off provinces, as told by our elders. Yup, it's such a rich blend of folklore that we Pinoys have got, don't you think?

A decade ago, there was a girl in her senior year in high school who joined the class retreat to a province somewhere up north of the country. Theirs was a Catholic all-girls school, and the venue of the retreat was being run by nuns of the school's congregation. Now this girl was skeptic - she didn't think ghosts exist let alone white ladies and the like. "Sige nga, tingnan natin kung meron nga talagang white lady..." were her exact words when their class arrived at the retreat house. Little did she know that she would get far more than she bargained for.

The class was supposed to spend three nights in the place, and on their second night, a spiritual sharing was happening in one of the halls. One of her classmates was crying hysterically because of some family problems which she shared to the class, so the girl was requested to get a glass of water from the refectory, which was at the other end of a long hallway. When she got out of the hall, she realized that the lights have been turned off to conserve energy and that it was raining pretty hard outside. A typical horror movie setting, eh? Nevertheless she kept her cool and started the long walk down the hallway leading to the refectory. She wasn't even halfway when her eye caught something to her left and when she turned to look, there was someone sitting at the bottom of the stairs leading to the girls' dormitory. It was pretty dark, but a hint of light from the lightning outside distinctly highlighted an image of a girl with long hair, dressed in white but somehow it was as if a shadow hid the entirety of her face. What's more troubling was that she was pretty sure that the person’s head was turned to her direction as if it was watching her every move. And so without any delay, the girl quickened her steps and for some reason, the hallway seemed to stretch longer than usual. She never looked back, dismissing the eerie feeling she had at her nape and the uncomfortable flutter of her heartbeat. One can only imagine the relief she felt when she reached the warm lights of the refectory. Only one problem now: she had to make the trip back to the hall. Great! Somehow the girl had the feeling that whatever she saw earlier was still out there, and she was right. As she reached the bottom of the stairs, she nearly dropped the glass filled with water, because the "white lady" was now on its feet and was looking at her. The girl dared not turn her head, but at the corner of her eye she knew that it was looking at her direction. She still couldn't see its face, and she was clutching on the glass of water so hard that her knuckles nearly turned white. Oh, and it's true when they say that your knees will turn up like jelly; the girl barely made it through because her knees were shaking. When she got back to the hall after what seemed like an eternity, almost everyone commented how pale she looked and asked if she was alright. All she could muster was a weak smile and she was quiet the entire night. In fact, she was quiet throughout the remaining days of the retreat, and she dared not walk along that dark hallway alone ever again.

Ten years has passed since that unforgettable night, and even until now the girl couldn't help but recall the eerie feeling whenever she recounts her experience. Somehow she felt as if that incident changed a part of her forever. She still gets goosebumps whenever the image of the "white lady" would unwillingly flash in her mind. Until now, she can't recall how it exactly looked like, because she never got to see its face. I just never did.

Happy Halloween! :)

The Catch-Up Series 3/3: Mom @ 64

Okay, this is one overdue post for my catch-up series: mum's birthday, that is. Now, as ashamed as I am to admit it, the past birthdays of my mom saw me barely struggling with my financial, err, condition. It was only this year that I was able to have a little more than what I'd spend for myself until the next paycheck so I thought mom's 64th birthday had to be special. Simple, yet special.

The day kicked off just like any other mornings, save for the birthday greetings from me, dad, and my cousin. It was breakfast as usual, and then after a few hours to spend checking Facebook and other online stuff, I got ready to join my family for lunch at Serendra. Pick of the day was Abe, a member restaurant from the LJC Restaurant Chains (Think: Café Adriatico and Café Havana.). Now, I've read mixed reviews of the place so I decided to try it out with my family. Also, it boasted of Kapampangan dishes which my Cabalen mom obviously loves just as much as my dad has grown fond of everything Kapampangan, even if his roots hail from Cavite. Anyway, so the place was pretty crowded when we got there a little past the quarter of 12, but we were lucky to score seats in less than five minutes. Browsing through their menu, I immediately scanned for Bringhe (Kapampangan version of Paella) and Betute (Dressed frog stuffed with minced frog meat). Looking at what they had to offer, I thought to myself, "Yup, Kapampangan nga...". We settled for Bringhe, Betute, Pesang Dalag, Balo-Balo (fermented rice with fish or freshwater shrimp), Sugpo Sa Gata, and Watermelon Sharbat for me. My parents opted for the much simpler lemonade.

My initial impression was that although there were obvious efforts to make the place seem cozy (like putting up a memorabilia corner and old photographs on the walls), the atmosphere reminded me of the old-fashioned panciterias in Manila from good old days of my childhood – it was noisy and overcrowded, lacked ample lighting, and service wasn’t that noteworthy. Good thing it didn’t take long for our food to arrive and, yes, I was right not to have set very high expectations of the place. The food was okay, I guess, but nothing too memorable; the bringhe was dry and somehow the chicken liver did not complement with the idea of glutinous rice in coconut milk; and I wished there were more vegetables in our Pesang Dalag. The betute was good and delicious, and the Watermelon Sharbat came as something of a surprise – I never thought watermelon shake and ginger would go together. Sure, it tasted a little different BUT it was good and I loved it! Mom loved her Balo-Balo, by the way. As for dad, well, he just practically ate whatever was served on the table. The bill was pretty much reasonable, but I don’t think I’ll be dropping by this place again for a long time. Nevertheless, we were all full when lunch ended, and a good walk along High Street was in order for some window shopping and coffee at Figaro. Oh, and before heading home, we dropped by Sonja’s for some cupcakes to bring on-the-go. (My, my! Sonja’s flourless chocolate cupcakes were such a treat! YUMMY!)

The Abe Experience

Coffee, anyone? :)

Little did mom know, there was still a mini-surprise waiting for her at home. There was a Mango Cake waiting, plus it was time to open her present, which I bought the other day. Let’s just say that the gift she got was just perfect for someone who has a delicate culinary taste! ^_^

Delicious Low-Sugar Mango Cake

Culinary Bestsellers For Mom :)

It was nice to see my mom smile the whole day. I swear, she just couldn’t wipe that grin off her face! Haha! Somehow it gives me a warm feeling, and I knew I made her birthday pretty special. And for the record, it was my parents’ first time in Serendra and Boni High Street, and judging from their impression of the place, it’s something they could very much get used to. ^_^

Sunday, October 18, 2009

The Catch-Up Series 2/3: The "Instant Ewww"

I've been meaning to post this excerpt for quite some time now... quite interesting from both sexes' point of view, if you ask me. :)


THE "INSTANT EWWW"

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...

So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on it that cost more than the car itself... with his stereo blasting... and a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound of the 4-cylinder motor...?

Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't think that car is communicating the message to women that he thinks it is"...?

Yeah I have, too.

Well here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.

It's going to trigger a feeling that like to call the "Instant Ewww".

The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE. It's over.

It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.

Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will start behaving differently.

In short, she'll disappear.

So where did I get the concept of the "Instant Ewww"?

I got it from WOMEN.

I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word "Ewww" when describing how they felt about a guy that was "confessing his love"... of course, these were guys that weren't loved in return.

So what causes the Instant Ewww?

And why would a woman feel it towards a man who was trying to be nice... a guy who was giving her a gift or telling her how he feels?

Because if you think about it from HER perspective, you'll realize that the moment a you do something to "confess", you have created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, women always know how men feel.

She already knew you wanted her.

She knew it from the beginning.

But now that you've started pursuing her and talking about how you feel, you've created a NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable. You've triggered an emotion that is repulsive to women. And it does repel them.

In summary...

You can't "make a woman like you" or "change how she feels about you" by doing nice things for her...

Doing "nice" things for a woman who isn't attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the "Instant Ewww" feeling that makes it so she'll NEVER like you.

Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They're doing it because they don't have an understanding of ATTRACTION. I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice thing for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand...

If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic way, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for her because you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she will not only NOT like you more, she will most likely distance herself from you.

Guys think that they need to communicate when they like a woman... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a girl. In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her > Tell her you like her > She likes you

Well remember... if you follow this pattern yourself with women who aren't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.

If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:

She thinks of you as a friend > You tell her you like her > She gets the "Instant Ewwws" and never wants to be around you again...


Excerpts from David Deangelo

The Catch-Up Series 1/3: Stranded

Quite literally, actually.

Well, you all know how the typhoon Ondoy has left its mark in the lives of Filipinos, especially those within the vicinity of Northen and Western Manila, right? And while my family didn't suffer a life-altering ordeal as those who have lost their loved ones, properties, and livestock over the raging floods, I also have quite an Ondoy story to tell.

So where were we when typhoon Ondoy lashed it's fury at this part of the country? Well, we were in SM Mall of Asia for a little celebration because, after 60 days of making financial ends meet by Herculean efforts, my so-called "Broke Days" were over and bills and other liabilities have been finally settled. So off we drove over at MOA in spite of the rain, since we were quite used to tripsaiding the mall even on a rainy weekend. We arrived only a couple of minutes befopre store opening, so I decided to get some long-overdue hair makeover. Read: HAIR REBONDING. Spent a little more than three friggin' hours at the salon and when I'm finally done, I just can't help feeling gtood about myself. What can I say? A salon treat just never disappoints for a girl. We were within the confines of the mall that time, so we were oblivious to the strong winds and heavy rains lashing outdoors. We decided to have lunch at China Palace (A really good chow: BIG servings and really good peking duck.) and then see Surrogates starring Bruce Willis (The plot was lame, nothing too noteworthy about the overallproduction, plus I'd still rather see Willis in a more realistic hardcore action flick like his Die Hard series.) After the movie, we noticed that the shops and boutiques were closing as early as 6:00 p.m. due to the typhoon, so we opted to just go home.

Little did we know that the roads leading home - Coastal Road and Aguinaldo Highway - weren't passable to light and heavy vehicles due to flood that was said to be more that 6 feet high. (Which is way past my own height, thank you very much.) So we had no choice but to park the car in McDonald's along Diosdado Macapagal Highway where we spent the whole night, along with many other motorists who, like us, were stranded as well. All I can say that time was "Thank God for fast food and take-out food!" I can only imagine how uncomfortable the situation must have been for my parents, but I was surprised that they were pretty much optimistic throughout the whole situation. It was as if there was a mini street party along that side of Macapagal Highway, for the people were busy eating the night away if they weren't discussing among themselves in the middle of the deserted road or sleeping in their respective vehicles. Man, it was truly quite an unforgettable experience!

The next day, we were able to finally reach home sometime around 7:30 a.m., and though we were too thankful that we were able to reach home safely, I was saddened bacause a lot of people weren't as lucky. As I watched the news, I see people in aguish or even in state of shock to have lost their loved ones, properties, and livestock. I can only do so much as to pray for them that they may have the stregth and will to carry on the cross that's God's will. I also raided our closets for unused clothes and blankets which I gave out to institutions accepting donations and relief goods. There's no better time to show how we care for our fellow Filipinos than a time like this.

God bless the Philippines!

The Catch-Up Series: Intro

Okay, so I'm so guilty of being too lazy to post anything on this blog. My fault. That's why I came up with these so-called Catch-Up Series, which will be like two or three posts from past events that have transpired a couple of weeks ago, only I never had enough will to post in on my blog. Sorry na.