Declarations

From now on, I'll live each day as it unfolds and be thankful for even the smallest blessing that comes with each day.

I am going to love without hesitation nor fear, and never again second-guess on where my feelings stand.

Life is too short to mind what everyone else thinks about me, so I'll leave their thoughts to themselves and just focus my energies on the things and people that really matter.

Life is full of uncertainties, so I shall leave no room for assumptions, false hopes and expectations. 

I shall be thankful for moments spent with people I care about, because I realize now that to be with the person close to your heart is both a priviledge and a blessing that humbles me in spite of.

I also realize that each one of us is flawed and, at some point, has been frayed one way or another. So I shall look at love in a more realistic light from now on, with the understanding that love gives you courage to look past the flaws and instead appreciate that person for what he truly is and the person that he almost is.

This Is How You Lose Her

This is how you lose her. 

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets. 

You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget. 

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the  beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished.When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her. 

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to. 

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her. 

Of Mountains and Bloggers

I have always wanted to share this particular read by a Filipina blogger, but the fear of causing quite a stir among my friends always gets the better of me. So, I'm sharing it here in my blog instead, because of all the "Date A Guy..." articles published online this has got to be my personal favorite and one which I can totally relate to. :)

Date a guy who climbs mountains. Date a guy who hikes for hours to reach the highest peaks just for the heck of it. He’s the one with the muddy shoes, smelly backpack, worn-out hiking pants and a complexion that has survived the worst of sunburns.

Date a guy who feels right at home on a campsite, who thinks electricity and indoor plumbing are non-essentials. He can pitch a tent that’ll keep you warm and dry even amidst the pounding rain. He can fix up a kitchen with just a foldable stove, a canister of butane and two metal pots. He will serve you hot soup and well-cooked, fluffy rice and they’d be the best stuff you’ve ever tasted after a whole day of trekking.

Find a guy who has been to the summit. He will tell you tales of amazing things he has seen, of sights that took his breath away, and he will take you there so you can experience them for yourself.

He falls silent at the sight of a beautiful sunrise. He stands in awe at the stunning view of the valley below. He knows how to value beauty because he has braved forest trails and steep ascents just to see it.

Find a guy who has travelled to remote places in search of a challenging climb. He will not back down from an obstacle. He will look at adversity straight in the eye and say ‘give me the best you’ve got.’ He can keep his cool in the face of life’s problems because he already knows what it’s like to go through the crappiest of situations and survive.

Date a guy who is happiest on a mountain. Listen to his stories. Laugh at his jokes. You will never have a dull moment with him. When you’ve left behind the trappings of modern society and life has been stripped down to the basics, he will make you feel like nothing is missing and you have all you’ll ever need.

Date a guy who climbs mountains. Keep him. Don’t break his heart. He will treasure you and take you on his most outrageous adventures. He will drag you out of your comfort zone and keep your pulse racing. Say yes to a guy who climbs mountains. He will make you feel incredibly alive.

The original entry can be found here: http://misadventuresoftintin.com/2012/05/18/date-a-guy-who-climbs-mountains/

So there. While I won't dwell further as to why I shared that article I'm pretty sure you get my earlier hint without having yo name names and events. But I'll say this much for now...

He does make me feel incredibly alive. :)