To Date And Not To Second-Date

They say that the first time you go out with someone is very crucial in determining whether you can stand going out with the same person again the next time. I.SO.AGREE. Chemistry, decorum, and timing all play into motion the minute you go step out of your cubicle and into that elevator that takes you all the way down to the lobby of the building where you work at to meet that guy who’s gonna take you out for coffee, dinner, or movies for the first time. Technically speaking, it’s a first date. (I said ‘technically’.)

Some first dates are at their most romantic, some are fun, and for some its, well, a lot less than what they’d expected. It’s not really that the spot they chose to have dinner at was a bad one, nor that the guy was actually a hideous sight (Else you wouldn’t even consider going out with him in the first place!), but maybe because the incompatibilities were so apparent the moment you exchanged “Hellos” and “Hi”. And as the night progressed, you begin to wonder if you could just buy a magical matchstick that could lit even just the slightest hint of spark between you and your date. But what’s worse is having to endure a guy who seemed so engrossed – not with the food nor anything else, for that matter – but with himself. In short, he sees himself as the ultimate hero of his life story and makes sure his date knows it damn too well. Pathetic.

*Sigh*

By now you probably have the slightest hint as to why I’ve come up with such a topic. Oh c’mon, people… *wink*

Sometimes I wonder if ever there is still a guy out there who can keep it real, especially on first dates. I mean, the place doesn’t have to be the most romantic spot in the metro, nor does the guy have to be the most sought-after bachelor with a sleek ride and an influential connection in tow. It’s all about being true and finding out what the two of you have in common. If you’re both lucky, by the end of the night sparks could be flying and a second date is almost absolutely imminent. And if the evening [or your company] turns out to be far below your expectations, be a good sport about it, rant a little, and then move on. That’s what I DID. *wink*