The Bomalabs Strike Back!

"Its hard 4 me 2 mit up wid u kc nalilito din ako. I dnt knw really if i love her, but i knw dat she loves me..."

- Actual SMS message from Mr. Bomalabs (to my girlfriend)

5:39 p.m., Wednesday. I was on my way to ride the shuttle service going home from the office when my phone buzzed with an SMS message from my girlfriend. She was having this convo (via SMS) with a guy we both know from sometime way back, and from the looks of it my friend was being put on the 'spot' by the guy, and she was confused (and a little giddy, to be honest) as to where the convo would lead to. For a while I got really excited for her, knowing too well that their friendship has come quite a long way and that yes, she likes the guy. I stay tuned as she updated me on how their convo was going, until she told me that the guy confessed having gotten back with his ex-girlfriend (come to think of it, it's now gonna be 'ex-ex-girlfriend', ha ha!). It would have been fine, as if two good friends were sharing some good news in an attempt to catch up with each others' lives. It's really just fine. Until he dropped the bomb and confessed that he's had feelings for my friend even way before, and that he isn't that enthusiastic about the getting-back-together thing because he's not so sure whether he still loves his ex or not.

DUH?!?!

I confronted my friend about it, and the poor dear is confused, flustered, and a bit shocked all at the same time. Being my frank self, I presented her two possibilities: 1) the guy would give up on the girlfriend to pursue my friend and try to make it work with her, or 2) the guy could just be fishing for answers so that he'll know if he can go as far as to date my friend on the side (sorry dear, I'm just being honest here). As much as I hate to admit, it could most likely be possibility #2. But we both agree on one thing: he's one of those really-hard-to-figure-out guys that's even more complicated than deciphering ancient writings. Bomalabs (a.k.a. 'malabo') as my friend calls it.

The way I see it, men have this annoying habit of fishing for answers from us girls instead being direct to the point. I mean, come on! If I can translate whatever the text message meant, it would equate to "Uhmm... I've gotten back together with my girlfriend but you see, I liked you ever since and I was wondering if you'd still want to see me and hang out... but my girl doesn't have to know." Plain and simple; direct to the point.

At the end of the day, my friend and the guy dropped the subject (geez, I hope it's for good... haha!) but my girl's feeling a little off balance by the night. To be honest, I'm quite relieved that things ended at just that for now. Heck, he could've just seriously pursued my friend and then things could have had a sweeter ending! Believe me, though readers of this blog may not have the slightest idea (ok, maybe some may just have the itsy bitsy slightest idea) as to whoever is the friend I am talking about, I know her well enough to say that she deserves so much better than a semi-sorta confused guy who couldn't quite figure out how he really feels. Believe me girl, you deserve so much better than that. ^_^